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Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
(german edition)
by Marshall B. Rosenberg
A reading log.
Part 6
December 11th, 2023
Anger is something life-affirming. Anger points to unfulfilled needs. Anger and resentment are never triggered by others. Their sources always lie within ourselves. We just need to recognize the unfulfilled need behind the anger. Once we are aware of this, we can give ourselves empathy. And when we are connected to ourselves, we can express ourselves on the one hand and listen to our conversation partner and respond to their feelings and needs on the other.
Chapter 10 "Expressing anger fully", page 239
December 12th, 2023
Dealing with anger in NVC requires patience and practice. You have to expend energy to break through old patterns of behavior. A kind of cheat sheet on which you can write how you want to behave could serve as an aid.
Chapter 10 "Expressing anger fully", page 245
December 13th, 2023
Power can be used to protect and punish. In terms of the NVC, the protective use is relevant. Power should be used to protect against self-harm. Self-harm can result from ignorance, misjudgement of consequences and psychological problems. In addition, power in the sense of the NVC can be used to prevent others from harming someone. Punishment leads to avoidance strategies or to reduced self-esteem.
Chapter 11 "The protective use of power", page 259
December 14th, 2023
We have been brought up to follow authority and put our own needs on hold. "Being needy" has negative connotations, "I" is selfish. We suppress our potential and our language encourages this. Getting rid of these trained patterns and behaviors requires patience and training.
Chapter 12 " Freeing ourselves and supporting others", page 275
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